isn’t it funny…

…..how we think that little ones around us sometimes don’t understand.
Above is a drawing my 3 1/2 year old drew of our family under a rainbow, dad, mum, Aidan & Amelie.
“I drew mum sad”…

Even though we try to shield them from certain things like the pain of grief, it managed to get through and appear on a day when I thought I was ‘happy mum’.
We try not to shield them from too much because we feel it’s very important to their development, emotionally, socially and physically.

so yes, I may sometimes be ‘sad mum’ but I hope that it’s something we will be able to talk about together and be able to deal with.

what do you think?

So it’s the final day of the fabulous Blogtoberfest and I have definitely enjoyed visiting many new and wonderful people and hope you have found some new ones to love aswell.
Great thanks to the fabulous hostess and ever so lovely Tinniegirl and the wonderful blogtoberfest giveaway festivities hostess the ever so Super and fabulous Superpops.

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Have a great weekend and thanks for tuning in ♥

Cathie
  • I love that picture, bless her little cotton socks, you're even colour-co-ordinated!

    My kids have seen me sad, and I think it's one thing to show people have ups and downs but it's another to burden your kids with sadness – it's a fine line. Mums try so hard to protect their babies too, a lot of the time they neglect themselves.

    Sending you my love Cathie – you are going through a lot, but rainbows help alot don't they? xxx

  • A very wise friend of mine said to me last week, it's okay to show emotion and have the odd cry in front of your children. Yes, we do try shield them and put on our happy faces, but I think they are often way more astute then we give them credit for. I hope your grief passes swiftly and makes way for many smiles. x

  • Its a beautiful picture.. and I agree with your post. Life encompasses many emotions and feelings and its ok for our kids to know this too 🙂

  • I think children understand things on such and intuitive level. They understand but they also don't. That's why you have to help them understand.

    It does get easier my friend. xxx

  • Oh Cathie, I am so sorry. Amelie's drawing is beautiful in its naivety but so full of empathy. I hope you get to spend lots of time under a rainbow with your gorgeous family. XX

  • I'm always amazed at how the littlies can actually read between the lines and see things that others can't. I hope it will get easier, and Amelie will be able to draw happy mummy.

  • Nat

    I hope all is well Cathie and you're having a nice weekend, I think kids these days are wise beyong their years…not oblivious like we were as little 3 year olds I suppose…I am at times in shock by the intelligent observations my little michaela makes…

  • I wish our troubles pass quickly. I do not know something from income 🙁

    ps:Did I get mail at?

  • I think it is vitally important that your children see you sad. This is absolutely essential to development of mental, physical and spiritual wellness. I came from a family that put on brave faces and I ended up very one very sick lady because I was never shown how to recover from sadness, it was just hidden away and never spoke of again.

    You are doing a fantastic job and your children are in-tune with you….that is a connection that some kids just don't have….and it is the most valuable connection (along with their father) of all!!

  • Amazing how cluey kids are . I hope you are happy mum again soon .

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  • Cathie, as your daughter has drawn you under a rainbow it shows she is aware of your sadness but is not afraid of it.

    Wishing you all the very best xx

  • How perceptive children are and it looks like you have a very insightful little girl.

    x

  • You are handling things beautifully. How else do the wee ones learn empathy and how emotions work? And nothing works when you hold everything in. That stuff also always gets through and then becomes something to be worried and fearful of.

  • Doing art is a great way to work through what's going on with in and making sense of feelings you may have. A way to express yourself when words can't. It's great your daughter has done this and I reckon you would feel a bit better if you did some drawing too. Especially with chunky crayons! Draw what ever… don't try too hard, be a kid and let yourself go. And yay for rainbows! They rock. xx

  • Oh my dear Cathie…I beleive also drawings are very important for children it helps them getting things "out" (and for us whatever allow us to do so!)…which is vital as you probably know…I really like and agree with many posts but specially Leonie…I was also explained that it is very important to explain why we are sad or grumpy or… to our children, as sometimes they can mistake being part of the cause…
    Hug xx

  • Your daughter is beautiful – it is lovely that she drew that big rainbow to make you feel better. I hope you do feel happier again soon. xx

  • I hope you are feeling better & happier today. It is totally ok for everyone to see life has it's ups & downs. Children are amazing at showing how they feel so it's only fair we are open with them. I hope that you have that gorgeous picture on your fridge 🙂 X

  • I suppose it is almost instinct to want to protect our kids from anything that will hurt or upset them. But just as we are teaching them how to love, I guess we need to teach them how to cope with sadness.

    As Amelie has shown you, she is seeing your sadness so talking it through with her, in a way she can manage, will probably help her to make sense of it.

    My heart is sad for you. xxxx

  • I think it is ok for our kids to know that we are human and not he super human people we try to be for them I think. That sort of sadness unfortunately has to be worn on the sleeve and bless her for noticing – that is a real shoe of love I reckon.

  • As mother's we need to let our children see us as human. When my father passed away suddenly my daughter was about the same age as yours and I would talk with her about being sad that he was gone. I am sure she saw me crying. The funny thing is now 3 years later at age 6 she is going through the grief that she never really understood when she was younger. She suddenly wants memories of my dad, wants to talk about his life, and cries over missing him. In some ways it seems easier because now I can talk to her about him without breaking down since my grief has lessened. Take care of yourself at this sad time.